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25th October 2020 

Counselling and Psychotherapy

Counselling for Anxiety

Anxiety, as you are probably aware, can be debilitating and life limiting. It limits the experiences we have in life and the challenges we pursue. It can get in the way of every opportunity for fun and growth than we experience.

The symptoms of extreme anxiety will vary from person to person, but they are commonly varying degrees of;
Racing heartbeat
Palpitations
Shallowness and shortness of breath
Shaking
Feeling of panic and fear

The feelings of anxiety themselves are completely normal and natural. The bodies survival mode.

You may have heard of Fight, Flight, Freeze response to feeling of fear. As our body responds to a potential threat, it will either prepare to run, fight, or freeze. It usually relates to something we have experienced that may create a trigger for us, or be a learned response to some threat. I don't believe that anxiety is a mental health problem. There is not a problem with your brain. The problem is with your thought processes, and your body is reacting in a natural way to these thought processes.

The good news is that Counselling/Psychotherapy can be of great benefit and support in helping you to find new ways of responding to these threats. A listening, non-judgmental ear, can be what you really need to begin to explore who you are, your life experiences and your hopes for the future.

You do not have to be tied up in the restrictions of anxiety forever. I cannot say I can cure your anxiety, as it is an important part of you and keeping you safe. We just need to learn how to be in control of it, rather that it being in control of you, and we can do that together.

I understand reaching out for support can be a really difficult thing to do, especially when you are already anxious. But it may be the best decision you make today to start getting your life back and allowing yourself to move forward with strength and confidence.

You may find the following guides helpful.

Anxiety self help guide

Coping with Social Anxiety

Self Help Guide for Panic

You can email me now, here.


Counselling for Depression

We all have periods when we may feel really low for one reason or another. But when it is ongoing and you can't seem to reach the other side, and it affects you being able to enjoy your life, then you may be depressed.

Depression is usually caused by life events, or because your needs are not getting met and you see no way of things changing. It is rarely, if ever, due to an imbalance of hormones in the brain.

You may be feeling tearful or angry, or have lost interest in things. You may struggle to sleep or get out of bed.

You may have already visited your Dr. about this, and be on anti-depressants, but find that they are not having the desired effect of making you feel less sad and irritable.

You may feel that you need to talk to somebody about how you feel. Counselling can help by supporting you in an empathic and non-judgmental to explore why you feel the way you do. It can help you to discover the root cause of you depression and finds new ways of being, increasing your confidence and boosting you resilience to life.

You may find the following guide helpful;

Depression Self Help Leaflet

You can email me now, here


Counselling for Bereavement, Grief and Loss

Whether you have lost somebody, a job, a beloved pet, or your children have left home, this can be a really difficult time. You may feel that there is nobody that you can turn to who will listen and understand things from your perspective. You do not have to go through this on your own.

Everyone of us will experience grief and loss in our lives at some point. Knowing that doesn't make it easier but it is a fact. No two people will process their grief in the same way, even if they have lost the same person. Working through your myriad of emotions during this time can help you come to terms with your loss. Counselling can provide the safe and supportive space that you need to express these painful emotions. In order to grieve effectively, we have to acknowledge and experience the full force of these emotions it order to let them go. The process of grieving and loss can be helped when we understand the different stages.

If you wish to see me for support you can email me, here


Counselling for Phobias

Almost everyone has an irrational fear or two—of wasps, for example, or heights. For most people, these fears are manageable. But when fears begin to cause tremendous anxiety and interfere with your normal life, they’re called phobias.

A phobia is an intense fear of something that, in reality, poses little or no actual danger. Common phobias and fears include closed-in places, heights, motorways, flying insects, snakes, and needles. However, you can develop phobias of virtually anything. While most phobias develop in childhood, they can also develop in later life.

If you have a phobia, you probably realize that your fear is irrational, yet you still can’t control your feelings. Just thinking about the feared object or situation may make you anxious. And when you’re actually exposed to the thing you fear, the terror is automatic and overwhelming. The experience is so nerve-wracking that you may go to great lengths to avoid it—inconveniencing yourself or even changing your lifestyle.

In psychotherapy there are techniques we can use to help you overcome those feelings of fear. By using and learning relaxation techniques you gain more control over you fight or flight responses and are able to think more rationally.
Safe exposure techniques can be applied, using your imagination. These are implemented through guided visualisations so you do not have to come face to face with the subject itself but just imagine that you are. Using the same techniques that caused the phobia in the first place, we can remove it.

You may find this guide helpful;

Self Help for Phobias

You can email me now, here.

Face to Face Counselling is available when current government guideline allow. Feel free to contact me to check the current situation. Its great to meet face to face and to see each other in the flesh. You may prefer to keep the Counselling sessions away from your home environment or just not keen on the idea of working online. If so, I hope we can meet up in person.


Is Online Counselling as beneficial as face to face?

Since Covid-19, all Counsellors have become Online Counsellors. Though many of us wouldn't have chosen it before the pandemic, I think it is true to say that many therapists can now see the benefits of Online Counselling.
Recent research has shown that it can be as effective, if not more so, than face to face. Here's a Anxiety self help guide to one article.
Some of the obvious benefits are that there's no need to travel. This means that you're not restricted to area and can see a Therapist anywhere in the country. You can benefit from enjoying therapy in your own home (though certain rules apply in these situations). It is also great for the less mobile or disabled clients, who can benefit from Counselling in the comfort of their own surroundings.


Sarah Lewin - Counselling/Psychotherapy/Hypnotherapy/Coaching - Magnolia Therapy Centre, 354 Mansfield Rd, Mapperley Park, Nottingham NG5 2EF- 07938 537146